“FROM CLICHE TO INTIMACY
Conversation begins at a superficial level. We talk in cliches, such as: “How are you? . . . How is your family? . . . Where have you been? . . . I like your dress . . . We must get together again soon. It’s really good to see you.” They are important conversation starters.
The development of conversation takes us from cliche to the sharing of information—a little more substance.
If the relationship is to develop further, conversation will progress from information to sharing opinions.
At each level, we reveal more of ourselves, making us more vulnerable. The development of a relationship requires progressive risk and trust.
The next level is sharing feelings. They express the uniqueness of who I am. This is therefore the intimate zone of communication.
Shared feelings will, from time to time, reach into the zone of peak-open communication—the experience of deep trust, fulfillment, and growth. At these times, the two persons will feel an almost perfect empathy.