When you are hurt, you have two options: revenge or forgiveness.
If you take revenge, the chances are they will too. You will hit back, they will hit you, you will . . . and you will be stuck in an unending cycle.
You will be damaged, and carry an emotional load of worry, guilt, pain and strife. If you choose forgiveness, you are mainly helping yourself move beyond past pain.
You also give them the chance to cut free of past mistakes and to reinvent themselves as they would like to be. To airy-fairy?
Christian author, Lewis Smedes breaks some myths that make forgiveness seem impossible.